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Dealing
with a cheating spouse or cheating boyfriend can be one of the most
painful and devastating experiences a relationship can face. Dear Dr.
Huizenga, Your E-book
finally gave me some peace of mind and a roadmap to follow. It was amazing
how the type of affair my wife was having just jumped out at me. Knowing
that, and what to expect, has given me hope that there will be a resolution. This is the one year anniversary of my life turning upside down due to an affair. You helped me to move beyond the hurt and to focus more clearly as I made some very hard decisions regarding my wife's infidelity. The guidance you provided was invaluable, both for understanding the affair and myself. Thank you...Tim R ...your E-book is a tremendous help. I reread it anytime I start feeling that things are getting out of control. It helps put things in perspective. Thanks for the help. Sharon Your e-book hit my situation dead on the head!!! I felt like I was getting a reading from a psychic!!! I have chills right now. Lauren A friend of mine suggested I buy your e-book on affairs which I read with great interest! My husband had 2 affairs during our marriage and we are now going through a divorce. I couldn't believe how accurate your description was of him - he is definitely number 3 but I don't feel he has always been which is the sad thing really. Amber I am amazed at how on-target you are in your profiles of the different types of "cheaters". I wish I had this two years ago--would have saved me a lot of trial-and-error. Pamela Your ebook has already been a big help!No matter how this turns out I'm already alot better off (feeling wise) than he appears to be. Seems like your recommendations are right on target - he can't figure out exactly what is going on other than I'm doing very well these days and still being a very caring loving wife. Thanks for all your help! Lisa You have opened a well-spring of ideas for me. Thanks! Kelly ...the information I received from you in the e-book was some of the most helpful I have seen, and I have read almost every "infidelity" and "relationship" book ever published. Yvonne I've read the book---some parts over and over---and indeed it's worth it. Thank you very much. Viki I find
your writings an incredible source of comfort. I find power in knowledge
and you have helped me regain myself in all this mess. THANK YOU! I learned why I am having the affair. Why I feel like I do and that there is hope for me to break the Revenge cycle that Ihave been on since Ilearned of my husbands affair 20 years ago. I never let go and have had several one night stands and 3 affairs. (One I am still in and want to break free of but cant seem to stop). I finally recognize all the pain I have felt and all the pain I am causing and what to do to stop it. Your approach is really different and unique. You have carved out quite a niche for yourself! Michelle I really liked the phrase "I will make it." I have been really down and it has some how reinspired me. I also liked the 12 mistakes people make. I knew I wanted to stay in the relationship (for a variety of reasons) but I was having a hard time moving forward. Those 12 things really made me look in the mirror. We have taken a lot of very positive steps. Jeanette At this time I find your writings an incredible source of comfort. I find power in knowledge and you have helped me regain myself in all this mess. THANK YOU. Out of all the books and websites and counseling I've gone through, your site has been of the most help to me and I am trying to find a way that I can get full benefit. Thank you. the information I received from you in that short time was some of the most helpful I have seen, and I have read almost every "infidelity" and "relationship" book ever published. you are the best to have shared all you did...you helped me a great deal. Ciao Your book contains more valuable and relevant and USEFUL information than all of the books combined I have read over the last two-plus years. Your book is so overwhelmingly superior to the many, many books I have devoured over the last three years, including the ones considered to be the "best" on infidelity/affairs/relationships, and the information you provide is so profoundly on-target and concisely written in a straightforward manner that it is having a dramatic impact on my life and marriage and on my beliefs/views/strategies as formed by and based on the other booksI want to thank you for helping me. So often, those of us with limited resources (money) are the ones who lose the most, because we can't afford the very help we need. You have provided me with something I've needed for a long time. I am so grateful. Your information was HUGELY helpful in helping me to categorize (to a tee!) this "behavior" and of course look to move beyond it... I have been using the Charging Neutral technique even without knowing about it until today. This is not normal for me since I am unemotional from day-to-day, but get emotional when we fight and eventually explode (like the description in Affair #5). Being very, very calm with her at first really scared her (I have never hit/hurt her), but she has opened up tremendously the more I can show that I won't explode. As usual your information is right on the mark. Its uncanny how your stuff seems to reach me just when I am looking for the information. It's marvelous to read. It makes me feel normal again. Regards Yvette Dr. Huizenga, your book has provided me with greater insight, with more understanding, with reassurance of my own value. But it has also presented me with a scary problem: My husband's affair was a very complicated matter, it is not going to be an easy or short road to recovery, and it will not be easy determining which tactics to use and when as I deal with building a new, and hopefully better thanks to you, relationship with my husband. Initially my heart and hopes sank as I discovered just how difficult this "recovery" will be, but it is encouraging to find that my intuitive responses in dealing with my husband and his affair have more often than not been correct. You have also given me many new ideas of ways to "shake up" the way we communicate and relate with each other, something we have needed badly for many years. I have a difficult road ahead, I have to accept that, but you have helped me understand that new territory better than I could have without this book. I can never thank you enough or repay your generosity. Sally Dr. Huizenga: I knew my husband was involved with another woman. His affair lasted two years and has been ended for almost ten months. You have produced the most helpful, useful and relevant book on dealing with your partner's affair that I have ever seen. You include vital information that no other source contains. Your profiles are so accurate it is eery! For me the most valuable part of each chapter is the very specific advice on what YOU can do to increase your chances that your marriage will survive the affair. I felt many times as I read your book that you somehow had been in my head and heart and living my life, your descriptions and profiles are that accurate! Yvonne\ I just finished reading your e-book How to break free of the affair. I must state this was the best book on relationships I have read thus far. my compliments on your wonderful book. Thank you NR My wife and I have been fighting about 8 months now & she finally moved out about 3 weeks ago I wish I would have gotten you e book sooner. Joe Can't believe reading your ebook that the situations are just like what I'm experiencing. My husband left the house three months ago. Four days before our 25TH Anniversary We celebrated it with a night in NYC Nothing spared. I know he's having an affair & won't admit it. Lately, he's been a great deal better with his attitude. I think the affair has somewhat come to an end. He still needs two weeks to come home. Why??? I made an appointment with a mediator. He flipped today with that. Mary I wanted to Thank you earlier but have been busy with the baby. She is 3 1/2 months old and cutting her first teeth. Finding you has been a God send for me. I hope God blesses you. Thank you for this material and I will read every bit of it and use it in my everyday living. Pam ...very tightly and concisely written, in understandable language and clear suggestions. Thanks! Nancy ...you pose pertinent and sometimes uncomfortable questions I must ask myself to determine my own motives for wanting to save my marriage. But for me the most valuable part of each chapter is your very specific advice on what I can do to increase my chances that our marriage will survive the affair. Yvonne Thanks again for your site because it helps put me back on the path of reality and truth and gives me comfort and hope. May God bless. Carol As one of your members, I just wanted to say thank you for your web site and for all you do to help others get through such a difficult time in their lives. Several months ago I became a member of your "club" and got your e-book "Break Free From The Affair." I am impressed with your book, and it's been helpful. Bob Dear Dr. Huizenga, First and foremost I want to say that you have already helped me tremendously just by reading some of your articles and information on your website and your emails. Of all the websites and books I have read, yours is superior in regard to this subject. I sincerely appreciate all your work to help people like me that are in the situations that we are. John I downloaded your e-book and it helped me cope with what was happening in my life. I must have read it 25 times!!! Thank You, Kathi Already, I have started putting into practice the suggestions from your materials and usually feeling empowered. linda First, I have bought your ebook and have found it fantastic. I'm still trying to identify which type of affair scenario fits my husband. I am after only 6 weeks in surprisingly good "emotional" shape, which in part is due to your book. Karen Dear Bob,I recently purchased your E-book "Break Free From Your Affair" on November 10, 2003. I really depend on this book right now. However, it is gone from my computer. I don't know what happened to it. Please help. I need to refer back to it. Robin The best Christmas present I will get. I will get over all this and figure out what to do going forward. My faith in male/female relationships has been severely damaged but I will work on that. Sue Just a note to wish you a very happy holiday season. I want to thank youfor all your help this past year. Your counsel and articles have helped mea more than you will ever know. Whenever I start to get down, I reread year book, especially the part on affair #4. Joe One of the best parts of the book has been examining my motivations and helping me decide to save the marriage or not. I have found out much about myself and identified my fear of living alone. I still struggle with the "I will make it" self message and have some sadness over the loss of the relationship with my wife. Overall I am very glad that I found your website and appreciate the online discussion forum greatly. Marty Your book was very good, in fact one of the best I have read. Linda I look forward to hearing from you and for your ongoing advice, you are an extremely important find for me. There is very little pragmatic literature or advice out there .Sandy Thanks Bob for your encouraging words. I'm taking your advise and feel confident and at peace that I am on the path to reclaiming my integrity. I'm planning on a wonderful New Year! Joan Here are
the things I have found good about your site/work so far. Thank you so much. Your advice makes a lot of sense, for us to find a way to use the pain of these prank calls to make us stronger. I think my wife & I are making great progress together in our relationship and saving our marriage. I thank you so much for your ebook and your advice in this specific matter. As a person who has felt like my life has been turned upside down during this ordeal, you have provided me much support and "calm" to my situation. Terry I have had a chance to browse through the ebook and spotted our scenario immediately. I will try to follow your advice, it is so nice to know what to do instead if flailing around doing the exact wrong thing! Christine Thank you, I feel like I have an answer now and help. Thank you again. Bless you for helping so many people. I wish I had found your site a year ago and I might not be in this mess. Sincerely, Debra. I learned about the kind of affair I was facing and that it was not my FAULT. I also got practical strategies to get my life going. The most important thing that I learned was that I had to worry about myself first. Another thing that was important was that I discovered that there was an emptiness that my wife was feeling that was caused by something that occurred to her long ago.That no matter what - I am going to make it! The affair is not my fault. She chose to do it, not me! With your e-book, at least the feeling of being "crazy" is lessening somewhat. Thank-you for writing your book, Break Free From the Affair. I downloaded it last night and it has been very eye-opening. It is wonderful that just when I needed some practical and sound advice, I found your site on the internet. I've got a lot of things to work through, as I just uncovered concrete evidence of my husbands' continuing years-long affair with his receptionist. Your book has helped me pick my path, so to speak, of what I will (and will not) do next. Laura
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