Now You Can Save Your Marriage...
Even If Your Spouse Is Unhappy And You're The Only One Who Wants To Keep Your Marriage Together!
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“If I had read your book three months ago, I wouldn’t be having these serious problems in my marriage right now." --Sam |
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May 2005
Dear Upset Spouse,
Of course you want a happy marriage. Everyone does.
But does it seem like your marriage is falling apart in front of your eyes? And there doesn’t seem to be anything you can do to stop it?
It can feel like the end of the world when a spouse says “I don’t love you anymore” or “I’m leaving.”
Especially if you didn’t see it coming.
You’ve probably found that the announcement impacts every aspect of your life, and now you may be wondering if you can keep your balance.
If you’re like most people in your situation, you’re probably feeling scared and confused, not knowing what to do next. And the truth is you’re not alone. You’ve got plenty of company of others like you who don’t know what to do.
I Can Help You For more than 25 years I’ve counseled so many spouses like you who’ve been in a similar predicament. And I’ve learned a lot from clients just like you about what works and what doesn’t work in trying to keep a marriage together. If you're going to avoid divorce, you need to:
That’s where the knowledge I’ve gained from over two decades as a professional counselor can help you. I’ve seen firsthand which ss hurt a marriage and which ones help the partners create an intimate, mutually satisfying relationship. |
You probably weren’t taught positive marriage-building skills in school. If you’re like most people, you’re having to learn on your own.
And there are two main ways people usually learn: by trial and error or by finding out what people who are successful do.
You don’t have time to waste on trial and error attempts to discover what will save your marriage. You need to know what precise steps to take right now to keep your spouse from bolting out of the marriage.
You need to know how to begin improving your marriage today.
As an experienced counselor, I can tell you what to do to maximize your chances of success. I can also help you avoid ss that will only waste your time and energy.
It just makes sense to learn what other couples have done who have rebuilt enduring passionate marriages . Don’t you want that too?
The good news is that there’s always hope that you can turn your marriage around. Your spouse’s announcement of unhappiness is serious but it doesn’t have to be the end of your relationship.
It is, however,
a wakeup call to you. It means that you have to take
positive s if you don’t want your mate to walk out the door.
Don’t Accidentally Push Your Spouse out the Door
It’s important to realize that certain impulsive ress from you could push your partner to leave the marriage. Don’t blast him (or her) with questions. Don’t overpower him with rage.
Yes, you may feel justified to act in these ways.
But be careful with behaviors that could shatter your chances for marital recovery. You can shoot yourself in the foot if you do the wrong thing now.
I’ve seen clients throw a fit when they got the announcement “I don’t love you anymore.” But just as a raging bull can destroy a china shop , unleashed fury can ruin any chance of patching things up.
Explosions never hold anything together. Especially in a marriage.
But they can sabotage your future with your spouse if you’re not careful. Because there’s still a chance for you to have a happy marriage if you know what to do.
Why You Can’t Argue with Your Spouse’s
Feelings
You may want to tell your spouse that she (or he) is wrong for having feelings of wanting to leave the marriage.
I’ve seen quite a few partners who try to talk their mates out of having the feelings that have finally bubbled to the surface and now threaten the marriage.
But it won’t work.
Such efforts to change the mind of the partner are futile and are destined to fail. Why? Because there is a history of unhappiness behind the words.
And you can’t change history with an argument!
What has happened is that a history of dissatisfs has built up on the side of the spouse threatening to leave. Whether the surprised partner considers the reasons given to be valid or not doesn’t alter the fact that the unhappiness exists.
Whatever you do...
Don’t fall into the trap of arguing or telling your partner that she (or he) is wrong.
Why?
Because her perception is her reality.
And it's the basis for her feelings and the decisions she makes. You will only make your mate defensive and more entrenched in her viewpoint if you make the mistake of arguing.
Don't Fight the Situation for What It Is
The first thing you must do is accept the situation as a given.
You’ll need to accept your spouse’s discontent if you want to positively influence the disastrous turn your marriage is taking.
Even if you disagree with the reasons your mate gives you for being unhappy.
This doesn’t mean you have to agree with your partner’s reasons.
Not at all.
Nor does it necessarily mean accepting the partner at his (or her) word if he says that he’s leaving.
But if you understand the true meaning of acceptance, you’ll understand how it can mean the difference between divorce and a happy union.
You have to start where the other person is when you’re trying to understand why they feel as they do. And you have to acknowledge the reality that your spouse has differing perceptions and feelings.
They aren’t “wrong.” They’re just different from yours.
How Are You
Handling Your Marriage Crisis...
Right Now?
Your actual res to crisis isn’t based on what happens to you.
Instead your res is based on your interpretation of what happens to you and what you believe it means.
One man’s wife might announce that she wants a divorce.
His unconscious belief is that his wife is leaving him because he is inadequate and this means that he’s not a good person. And therefore, he’s not lovable or attractive. So he reacts with rage because he feels threatened.
Another husband might react with sympathy and concern for his wife.
He might believe that the wife is under stress and needs emotional support. He asks himself if his excessive hours at the office have driven a wedge between them.
He reaches out to her to try to reestablish a connection.
These are
two very different ress. And each response will produce its own very different outcome in a marriage.
Four Different Ress to a Crisis Situation There are four typical ways in which you might react when your spouse threatens to leave you:
These approaches will not save your marriage. The fourth strategy is the one that works:
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How You Choose to React Is Your Call
It’s up to you to decide which of these approaches you want to follow. If you’ve chosen a response but you’re not happy with the results you’re getting, you can choose to change your situation.
You don’t have to stay stuck in a way of reacting that isn’t working for you or helping your marriage.
It’s important to remember that you can choose to change your res anytime.
Just decide to do so.
You’re probably familiar with the saying, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done, you’ll just get more of the same.”
You always have the opportunity to decide how you will react to a situation.
If your first res is to give up, you can decide to take a different approach instead. If a painter doesn’t like the colors he has initially picked, he paints over the canvas and selects different colors.
A writer who doesn’t like the story she’s writing can decide to start a new story. So can you.
You Create Your Life Every
Day
In one sense you are a writer. You are writing the script of your life each and every day with the decisions and the choices you make.
And if you have the courage to face the truth and admit that what you’ve been doing has not given you the results you want, you can change yourself and your own ss.
And this will change your life.
If you’re willing to take responsibility for your behavior, the way will be paved for positive change in your marriage. One of the most powerful decisions that a spouse can make is to commit to taking responsibility for the quality of his relationship with his partner.
What’ll Happen to You if You Do Nothing
But before you make a decision on what to do, I want you to ask yourself:
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Is your marriage worth the effort of learning new ways to reconnect with your partner?
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If you don't take s now, how much regret will you feel if you lose your marriage?
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How much pain are you suffering because your spouse is threatening to leave?
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How would your divorce negatively affect other family members, such as children, parents, and grandparents?
The answers to these questions give you a good idea of how committed you are to keeping your marriage.
And since you've read this far, my guess is that you’re motivated to do whatever it takes to preserve the precious treasure you have—your marriage — by taking immediate s instead of continuing to spin your wheels.
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